Wedding Story of Ashfaq and Fatimah

May 31, 2018 11:02 am


  • Your initial meet. How did it happen?

Fatimah: The year 2011, It was at a conference hosted by our college student body. We were a part of the organizing committee and Ashfaq had joined just before the event.

On the day of the event, He and his friend were assigned at registrations and thought it would be fun to hide my bag. I figured out that it was they who did it but let them have their fun.

It really was like he appeared out of nowhere given that we never ran into each other before and little did I know that, 3 years down the line he would be the one I was saying yes to.

  • Who made the first move? How?

Fatimah: Following the incident, occasionally I used to get a “what’s new?” message from him. In 2014 just after I got back for some time off college, the student body was hosting another workshop and I remember a message from him popping on my Facebook messenger asking me if I would be there. He said it had been a while since we saw each other and it was a good opportunity to meet and catch up.

Ashfaq: I had to make the first move .. sometimes she used to take two weeks to get back to one message..not kidding!

She played it safe.

  • What was your first impression about your spouse?

Fatimah: Cute, full of smiles and jokes, very humble (he made it to the nice guy list) laugh

Ashfaq: I assumed she was an Arab/Indian!

  • In what ways are you most alike?

We are both people who pre-plan ahead, We share a love for travel and experimenting new things and enjoying the simpler things in life 

  • What's your most memorable date? Why?

Fatimah: The date after his parents officially came and saw me. Months of anticipation regarding their approval finally came to an end and that day when we finally met, we both had a huge relief, the vibes felt good and we were completely excited for our new beginning.

  • Three things you love and hate about your partner.

Fatimah: When in a marriage best thing is not learn to hate rather you learn to get accustomed to each other’s ways BUT! the only thing I really hate is his ability to fall asleep the instant he closes his eyesI’m an insomniac.

Ashfaq: Waking her up is a bit of a process! Love that she is spontaneous, knows how to hold things together when all hell breaks looseup for all my crazy ideas.

Fatimah: Love that he understands mepushes me to overcome my fears and follow my dreams. He is my best critic.



  • How did the proposal happen?

Fatimah: After a couple of weeks of texting back and forth he popped the question.

It was a big decision to make so I did take some time to think it throughspoke to my family about it and then finally said yes!



  • Most Memorable Moment From Your Wedding?

Fatimah: The wedding was all a blur to me but what I really cannot forget was the moment when I had just finished getting dressed and was ready for our pre shoot and my husband walked into the room, all suited up carrying a bunch bags full of food from our Nikkah Ceremony. It was a sight to see but we all had a good laugh the moment he walked in.

Really appreciated the fact that he decided to do it himself rather than send someone else.

Reminding me why I was marrying him ...his humbleness.

Ashfaq: Her face when she saw me walk through that door. 

  • Describe your wedding day using one word, what would it be?


  • What's Been The Most Fun Detail Of Your Wedding To Plan?

Fatimah: I said yes to my dress a year and half before my wedding with that sorted every little detail from flowers to deco revolved around the vibrant colours of my outfit making it very easy to plan.

  • What's the most difficult detail of your wedding to agree upon? 

The venue and the guest list because both parties had a large crowd to accommodate.



  • Where did you go for your honeymoon?

Ashfaq: Malaysia, with functions that happened back to back we knew we needed that break from the endless months of planning. It was a great getaway.

  • What is your idea of, “and they lived happily ever after”?

FatimahAccept each other’flawslearn to forgive and forgetlove passionately and most importantly be content with what you have been blessed with. All that matters is your happy it doesn’t have to be perfect. 

  • What surprised you the most during the first few months of being married?


FatimahThe fact that no matter how much we thought we knew each other in and out before marriage, there was still so much we didn’t know and so much to learn.

  • Who’s good at forgetting and better at forgiving?

We are both good at it, after all what’s a marriage without a few compromises?


Photographer - Muslim Wedding Photography (aka Pictorial Studios)

Florist - Lassana Flora

Ceremony Venue - Hotel Ramada 

Reception Venue - Miami Reception Hall 


Bridal Lehenga- Custom made (India)

Bridal Bouquet- Boutique by Shums

Shoes- Debenhams UK

Hair & Makeup - Chic by Shabina


Suit and Shirt- The Tailor Shop and Envoy 

Shirt Studs- Envoy 

Shoes- Saffans

Socks- Envoy 





About the author

- Ruqaiyah Shabeen

I feel the same way about clothes and lipsticks, as others do about food!