Wedding Story Raisa & Kavinda


January 14, 2019 2:03 pm

THE ROMANCE 

  • Your initial meet. How did it happen?

This was a match made in heaven, our families knew each other even before we were born. We actually met when we were babies, long before meeting as adults. Kavinda’s mother explained that apparently, I bit his cheek so hard that it left a mark for a few days. Haha!  That was in 1994. 

Fast forward to 2016 when I was studying in Melbourne, Australia, for my masters. I was living in university accommodation studying for the finals, when our mutual friend, Jayani, took me on a road trip to Geelong to surprise a close friend and escape from the exam stress. I soon found out that Kavinda is Jayani’s best friend and apparently, she had decided to play Cupid as she was convinced that Kavinda and I made a good pair. Before we knew it, we had encountered our first milestone- becoming Facebook friends!

  • Who made the first move? How?

Kavinda made the first move! A while after the Facebook episode, we had been chatting for a while and Kavinda wanted to meet for the first time in over two decades. I was very hesitant at the time as I was finishing my exams and did not want any distractions to break my concentration, however, he eventually persuaded me to meet him after two months. The initial meet up was low key and Kavinda joined my friend and I for a movie at Melbourne Central. He fit right in and I felt comfortable around him, like I had known him all my life! 

We continued to get to know each other and finally on the return journey from a Phillip Island day trip, Kavinda nervously mustered up the courage to ask me out. The feelings were mutual and I eventually said yes on Christmas Day, 2016. 

  • What was your first impression about your spouse?

At first, I thought Kavinda was a very calm and quiet person, but I was very wrong. He’s like Mr Darcy in ‘Pride and Predjudice’, minus the prejudice and the pride! He improves on acquaintance, I mean from knowing him better, his disposition was better understood. In  fact, I have come to realize that I am more calm and quiet than him. 

  • In what ways are you most alike?

Strangely, Kavinda and I are complete opposites! He likes action Hollywood movies and  I like romantic Bollywood movies.  He can finish a phone call in less than a minute whilst I would take at least an hour to finish the same conversation and even make a second call! They say opposites attract and that’s why we are so perfect for each other. We have our differences but that’s what keeps our relationship interesting and we are great at making compromises, finding similar ground and enjoying the things that we both like to do. Kavinda and I have a passion for travel and photography, the only difference is that Kavinda loves capturing nature shots whilst I am the selfie queen!

  • What's your most memorable date? Why?

It would have to be the time we spent eight hours in the university laundry, enjoying conversational bliss over chips and soft drink! 

  • Three things you love and hate about your partner.

Kavinda has a personality that is caring, loving, understanding and patient, along with a sense of humour that is similar to mine. These qualities are what I love the most about him.
Whilst I love him, every relationship has its annoyances and mine would 
be 
Kavinda’s addiction to his phone.

He has a habit of continuously scrolling through giving the impression that he is not paying attention when that’s actually not the case. 

THE PROPOSAL

  • How did the proposal happen?

Well, since both of us love photography, we had decided to go the Melbourne Royal Botanical Gardens to take some shots. However, when I learned that my friend and amazing photographer, Dylan, would be in Melbourne, the plan changed a little.

It became a couple shoot, and after a bit of convincing, Kavinda agreed to be part of it all, however, he had other agendas! In the Lavender Garden, he popped the question, out of nowhere, in his signature-casual-yet-slightly-nervous style.

Of course I said, YES!

  • If the proposal was a surprise, on a scale of 10 how well did it go?

It was such a surprise and so cute that I would give it 100 out of 10. No doubt.

 
 

  • What are you most looking forward to as Mr. & Mrs.?

I think for me it is sharing everything together as Paranagamas. Kavinda is my partner in crime and it is nice to know that we have each other’s back to share the load and conquer life. There is no more texting good mornings when you can actually do it face to face, no more his place or mineinstead we have built a strong foundation and a home together- a place to call our own!

We love the idea of designing our own space with style and flair that is unique to both our personalities. Most importantly, we are greatful for where we are now and how our journey has begun. We have a strong relationship based on understanding, love and forgiveness and I feel very lucky that I got to marry this amazing handsome man! 

THE WEDDING

  • Most memorable moment from your wedding?

I think it was undoubtedly walking towards the poruwa with my Amma and Thaththa on either side of me. There was just something very pure about it. I felt loved and blissfully happy, more than ever before and it was the best moment, not only of my wedding, but also my life so far.

  • If you could describe your wedding day using one word, what would it be?

Surreal- We still can’t believe it!

  • What's been the most fun detail of your wedding to plan?

You won’t believe this, but we decided to do a first dance at the very last minute, when we were changing outfits for the going away! It was very spur of the moment and we decided on the song whilst coming down in the lift! 

However, there are a million and one things to plan when it comes to a wedding, can be extremely overwhelming, and planning a wedding is essentially a full-time job! Luckily, we had our parents, uncles and aunts, to our rescue and them, our planners were awesome!

  • What's been the most difficult detail of your wedding to agree upon? 

Definitely the seating plan!  With over 600 guests, organising was quite challenging. After struggling till dawn before the wedding day, Groom and his cousin brother created a fabulous party, making sure people have a great time. 

It’s vital to do some creative combining, as you never know who will become fast friends. Also, the location of each table is important where you can put your younger guests at tables close to the band, and older guests a little further away so they are not overwhelmed by the volume. 

LIFE AFTER

  • Where did you go for your honeymoon?

We went to the Fiji Islands for our honeymoon.

  • What is your idea of, “And they lived happily ever after”?

Who knows what the future will bring, but for me, a happily ever after is growing old together with loverespect and support to achieve each other’s dreams. 

  • What has surprised you the most during the first few months of being married?

I think even while we were dating and during the whole wedding, I didn’t quite comprehend what I was signing up for- a lifetime of sharing! However, it just works and I am so surprised at how naturally my things became our things. 

  • Who’s good at forgetting and better at forgiving?

I think we are both equally good and/or bad, depending on how you look at it, at forgiving and forgetting. 


 

CONTRIBUTING VENDORS 
Photographer: Amarante
Videographer: The Wedding Story 

Bride and Bridemaids’ bouquets: Lucien de Silva
Florist: Petals by Hasa
Invitation and wedding cake boxes design: Soleil  
Ceremony Venue: Hilton Colombo 
Entertainment: Orchestra by Mahesh Denipitiya and Western Band by Mahesh Denipitiya
Cake Structure: Caked by Amna

THE BRIDE 
Bridal Saree: Purnima Abeyratne Inspirations
Bridal Boutique: The Fabric Gallery 
Shoes: Badgley Mischka

Jewellery: Vogue Jewellers
Hair: Ramani Fernando
Makeup: Ramani Fernando
Bridesmaid Dresses: Purnima Abeyratne Inspirations 
Bridesmaid Shoes: Genelle

THE GROOM 
Suit & Shirt: Imitiaz Designers 
Shoes: Hush Puppies
Grooming: Danushka (Salon Liyo)
Groomsmen Suits: Imitiaz Designers


About the author

- Fazmina Samat

Content Coordinator of We Do. Good food, soul music are my escape bubbles.